In pop culture, getting it on “all night long” and “till the break of dawn” seems to be the gold standard that makes sex great. So it makes sense that there’s a disconnect between how long sex lasts and how long people think they’d like it to last. But does longer sex mean better sex? Maureen O’Connor reported in New York that 75 percent of men prematurely ejaculated within only two minutes in 1948, whereas men now usually last on average between 5.7 and 7.5 minutes. Even though sex lasts much longer now, 80 percent of participants in a survey said they wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer—at least twice as long!
O’Connor reports that “According to…sex therapists, sex is ‘too short’ when it lasts one to two minutes. ‘Adequate’ is three to seven minutes, and ‘desirable’ is seven to 13. The range for ‘too long’ went up to 30 minutes.” So why is that most people say that they want sex to be double what it is when “too long” can often be, well, too long? Despite porn’s and pop culture’s influence on what we think of as good sex, duration is not the most important factor. Good sex is really more about all the things that make it good—how hot it is, a partner’s responsiveness, how good you cum, etc.
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