Phone Sex

It took me a rather long time to realize and then even longer to appreciate that sex and fantasy are what makes the world go round.  Yes, sex and fantasy help with the reproduction of the species but more than that, they are what gives life meaning and flavor.  There is no meeting in the world that cannot be improved by reflecting on the last amazing sexual encounter that you had.

I sometimes reflect on this while driving or waiting for my coffee at Starbucks.  The core essence of who we are as humans is as sexual creatures.  Everything we do that doesn’t focus on sex or some derivation thereof is just a mask.  We all wear clothes to cover our bodies and I think, to a lesser extent our style of clothing can hide our desires. 

On one hand, I like to please others sexually.  On the other hand, I like to be pleased.  However, what I’m leaving out is those moments where I need—crave—to be used.  I just want to be fucked and fucked hard.  Take me to my most primal level and make me feel like I am nothing more than a vessel for you to achieve what you want.  Then there are those days where I want to have my partner obey my every word, no matter what I desire or choose for him to do.  I don’t often mention those feelings to others, even if I am dating them or sleeping with them.  To do so would remove an element of my humanity from me; at that point, I’m just a body with chemical hormones racing through it.

I’m Jessica.  I’m 29 and an LA based sex counselor.  I don’t have a degree in psychology, I’m just someone who has an incredible eye for detail who understands a lot of foundational aspects of our biology and our sexuality.  My practice is a part time thing, but by choice.  The advice that I give to couples is basically the same.  Communicate with one another, be open-minded, that kind of thing.  There are only so many times in a week you can encourage a husband to go down on his wife more often before it becomes trite and you start rolling your eyes at the problems; you’ve heard the 10 times already that week.

What has piqued my interest of late though is the desires and fantasies that the couples that I work with won’t share with one another.  Individually, they can confide in me that they want to experience being with a man with an incredibly large penis (both him and her), but they can’t share those things with one another.  I find this to be quite sad.  I think a lot of marriages and partnerships would last a lot longer if people were just honest about their desires.  But there is such a stigma attached to things like being bi-curious or being involved in an interracial sexual affair that the people don’t feel comfortable sharing.  

I have developed an ability to pick up little tells from people and nothing says, “You’re on the right track, there’s more to this than I’m sharing,” like the briefest twinkle in the eyes coupled with a nearly imperceptible widening of the eyes.  Seeing that small gesture means that there’s a lot more to investigate and I adore that.

I’ve begun doing more one-on-one sex counseling and wanted to sign up here because I think that it would A) allow me to possibly participate in a sexual way, which I obviously can’t do in real life, and B) would afford you to be even more open with me because of the anonymity a site like this offers.

Please know that I will follow all the terms of service on this platform and the law in general.  If you have any questions for me, feel free to text me.  I should be available mostly in the evenings to take calls, but will be able to text during the daytime when I’m able!  I can’t wait to speak with you!