I am a 44 yr old housewife with a black lover 14 years younger than me. Although I know some women are just into black men this was something I hadn't searched out. He literally just knocked on my door one day and made a pass at me. Originally I'd turned him down and told my husband about it. I sure am glad this man didn't give up and tried again. After the first time I notified my husband that sex would no longer be part of our relationship. He doesn't watch what I do with my boy toy but he does ask questions about it. I love the new relationship. Although the relationship with my boy toy is based on sex it is beyond just sex to us. We respect and care about each in somewhat the same way it once was with my husband.